Afraid of People

Social anxiety is anxiety (emotional discomfort, fear, apprehension, or worry) about social situations, interactions with others, and being evaluated or scrutinized by other people. The difference between Social Anxiety and normal apprehension of social situations is that social anxiety involves an intense feeling of fear in social situations and especially situations that are unfamiliar or in which you will be watched or evaluated by others. The feeling of fear is so strong that in these types of situations you may be so worried that you feel anxious just thinking about them and will go to great lengths to avoid them.

According to the US National Comorbidity Survey, social anxiety is the number one most common anxiety disorder and is also the third most common mental disorder in the U.S. An estimated 19.2 million Americans suffer from social anxiety disorder and it can occur at any time but most often it surfaces in adolescence, early adulthood, or even early childhood. Statistically it is also more common in women than in men.

It occurs for different reasons. Developmental social anxiety occurs early in childhood as a normal part of the development of social functioning, and is a stage that most children grow out of, but problem or chronic social anxiety may persist (perhaps unnoticed) until adolescence or may surface in adulthood. People vary in how often they experience social anxiety and in which kinds of situations.

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  • kraven

    Thanks for upload.
    This was a very well put together documentary, and I found it very informative. :)

  • Asker

    Alright doc but I gotta ask, how do people who are tremendously overly nervous get to work with a film team (a lot of people) and tell about their inner feeling in front of camera to millions of people? Just seems a bit odd.

    • tim

      actually documentary film teams can be very small… can be as small as 2 or 3 people on the field. And usually the interviewer is very good at talking to people, so much so that the camera disappears from the interviewee’s attention. They are just having a conversation with that one person and forget about the camera.

    • taffysaur

      as a socially anxious person, i’d actually welcome a small, contained interview (depending- quite heavily, actually- on who was interviewing me) because it’d be an outlet. i spend most of the day talking to myself or my cat, but i don’t get a lot of feedback, and really i might just as well not talk at all (i laughed at the cartoon w/teh cats).
      but it’s also worse as a guy, maybe. i don’t think girls want someone so timid or indecisive. it mattered in highschool.
      but i’m not complaining. i can see their POV, for sure. it’s just that to get me to open up, someone has to be willing to put in SO much time + effort, and walk around on eggshells every second. i can’t expect anyone to bother really, esp. for so little reward, hah.

    • Gerry

      I think the key is about control…If the interviewee feels that they are in control of the situation its something quite different than facing social situations where (they may feel) practically anything can happen

    • sandra

      This seems to be a common question, particularly among skeptics who don’t really believe SAD is a serious problem. Keep in mind that what you, as a “normal” person (for lack of a better word), think would be impossible for someone with SAD isn’t necessarily so.

      First: People with SAD aren’t completely incapable of doing the things that terrify us. We can feel ridiculous amounts of anxiety prior to, during and even after an activity that triggers our fears, and still go through with it. However, it is exhausting and, well, terrifying. Sometimes, doing it once makes it a bit easier to do it again, and again. Other times, the experience is either so overwhelming, or we perceive it as so humiliating, that we’ll avoid ever doing it again.

      Second: I can only speak for myself here, but I’m far more comfortable talking to people when I have a defined role and I’m confident that I know what I’m doing/talking about. (And I’m the world’s leading expert in how SAD affects me personally, LOL.)

      I have a somewhat successful career (I say “somewhat” because I finally had to scale it back to reduce the number of anxiety-provoking situations) that does involve working and talking with other people, but I can’t handle purely social situations at all, except with a few select individuals in my life. I have a lot of difficulty even having lunch with the same people I work with all day.

      Ask me about the comparative benefits of one website technology over another, and I’ll talk your ears off. Ask me how my weekend was, and, well…

      Third: Talking about something in front of a camera with only a few people actually present is not necessarily as scary as talking in front of room full of people. It’s also not “live.” For something that’s this important – I think most of us would at least try to help with a project like this, given the opportunity. We’re desperate for people to understand what’s really going on with us.

      Fourth: An interview is not the same as an actual conversation. The rules are much, much simpler and well-defined. The interviewee just has to answer questions. S/he doesn’t have a responsibility to help keep the conversation going.

    • Pam Nestor

      I am one of the people (Pam) who was in this video. It was a very frightening experience for me, but after years of suffering with an illness that had no name, I felt it was important to get this story out to try to help other people. I can assure you this is a very real illness and it’s no fun living in terror all of the time. The film crew couldn’t have been kinder and did everything in their power to make me feel safe and comfortable. Participating in this film and seeking treatment for my anxiety changed my life. While I don’t believe I’ll ever truly be cured, I am a much different person than I was.

  • Shay

    Thank you for posting this. My daughter who was recently diagnosed now knows there is hope and she is not alone.

  • Tay

    I found this documentary to me a little disappointing. It was much too short, and did not really explore the healing process of these people.

  • Barb

    You can find a longer version on Youtube. Just search Afraid of People there.