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Virgin School follows the emotional and physical journey of a 26 year old virgin as he embarks on a unique four month course for sexually inexperienced men in Amsterdam. The course is designed to boost his sexual confidence. If he makes enough progress the course could end with him losing his virginity to one of the sex therapist coaches.
According to a recent study (by Radio 1, MTV and Durex) the vast majority of people lose their virginity between the ages of 16 and 18. However, there is a small section of society who remain virgins well into middle age. Around 4% of people haven’t had sex by the time they hit 25. James is one of them. He’s ‘never even got to first base.’ He says that ‘Being a virgin you get judged, you’re isolated, an outcast. For me losing my virginity is a rite of passage, it’s about becoming a man and feeling like everyone else, feeling that you’re not abnormal ’.
James has given up all hope of ever having sex or having a meaningful relationship with a woman but that could all be about to change as he heads off to Virgin School.
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Posted on Monday, December 21st, 2009 under Lifestyle. Respond.
Its weird to me how James is afraid of everything sexual with the female gender, yet still stands ready to be filmed while having sex.
Guttwrenching, not heartwrenching!
too much for one evening…
Was I the only one thinking it was deeply troublesome to look at this documentary??
Its all build on shock and has no thought process whatsoever, with a character being completely raped by the media, putting him in a position where he feels at home with both the women and the camera crew. But they are using him?
Talk about getting fucked by the media!
Well I thought it was pretty entertaining, and James volunteered himself – why blame it on the media when its obviously his own fault? The whole doc was good i though, due to it quickly answering the question about how much society today says: either you had sex and a winner, or a loser if you had nothing after 25. And its the truth, you ARE most likely a loser and have lived in a cave if you havent tried sex before the age of 25.
Why couldnt he at least get a good looking whore compared to those old women… urgh…
Why is it so bad to be a virgin? Can anyone tell me?
Well, you don’t fuck or get blowjobs and stuff…
I personally think he is very brave. His courage actually moved me and made me re think how harsh I can be and we can be as people. If he ever came up to me in a bar or so I would have definitely snubbed him and not thought twice. If only we would understand the ramifications of our actions. With love and support he over came his fears and what a warm and welcoming environment it was. James you’ve actually encouraged me to be a better person with more understanding and greater compassion for others. And well done, I hope you bring hope to others that feel segregated from the perceived norm. And as you said you did the film for YOU.
Some of the comments I’ve read in various places in relation to this programme are downright ridiculous and lead me to conclude that the people writing them hide behind a thin veneer of machismo and really aren’t comfortable with sex at all. The predictable “must be like throwing a pickle down a hall, why didn’t he just hire an escort, damn she’s an old perv, what a loser” type nonsense, which simply beg for a “spoken like a true teenager” sticker.
The woman concerned is providing a service. I really couldn’t imagine an escort or prostitute spending four months trying to straighten out the crooked parts of his past. The fact that many of his problems are linked to sex doesn’t make her a pervert. A pervert is what he may have become, had he not sought help.
Many of the sneering comments speak volumes about our society’s attitudes towards sex and just being a person in general. Sex is lauded everywhere. It sells. It titilates, but it’s still something many people feel uncomfortable with. The pressure to be outgoing, confident, attractive and ‘successful’ is immense. Woe betide anyone who doesn’t feel comfortable with it or doesn’t fit the bill. People jump through hoops and present personas to the world, all in a bid to stave off being branded a ‘loser’. A loser is what he would’ve become, had he let past events permantly define him.
Sex is great, but it’s all to easy to get consumed by it, at which point it becomes just another outlet for fears and frustrations. I hope Jason is able to integrate it successfully into his life and move forward. I wish him all the best.
Why does James wear pants (underwear for you americans) AND boxer shorts ? I’ve never seen that before.. Double protection against skid marks ?
Aiya
He’s got blueballs all the way “extreme insecurity. Either if you love this documentary or not, theres just no way no one wouldnt laugh at the stripshow he does…
I’m 22 and a virgin, not for any moral grounds, or women not liking me, I just never really cared that much to put effort into it, when it came to dating and courting, and in regards to sex outside of a romantic relationship, never liked the idea of a one night stand. I don’t feel bad, I don’t feel like an outcast, I don’t feel less of a man. I’m more “manly” in most other traditional terms, then guys who I know who have had it quite a bit.
I have been flirted with, and I’m not ashamed and I don’t feel abnormal. I have allot of friends, and am a part of society. I’m not treated any differently. I don’t see why people would put themselves threw such a course, and be either that ashamed of feel cursed, he could go on a date if he wanted to. I guess I just don’t get people who have strong opinions of sex one way or the other. If it wasn’t common there wouldn’t be six billion of us. Being a virgin is okay, being promiscuous is okay, and so is everything in between, as long as you don’t hurt anyone else, and it shouldn’t be a reflection of character, and at least from my perspective and experience most people in reality don’t consider it one.
JESUS CHRIST!
Well, the survival of the our species does not have to be everyone’s business.
feels like my eyes got burned out my skull
Sex is highly overrated. I remember having his mentallity when i was still a virgin, but after it happened….it really didnt change anything. It sure as hell was fun for the moment but it passes and you are still who you are at the end of the day maybe with a little ego boost for the few weeks after getting laid.